Let me introduce a concept i am using for a while now: the hero mode. It is very similiar to the Responsibility Process and the Karpman drama triangle. But it is a bit simpler and more visualised approach. You always tell yourself a story. About the past, about now and maybe also about the future. Instead of being a victim, you guessed it, you decide to be the hero! Only YOU! It is your responsibility to tell the right story at the right time. If you go for victim, you will be or become the victim. If you go for observer, you will be or become the observer. If you go for outsider, you will be or become the outsider.
What attibutes has a hero? A hero…
- …has goals (kill a dragon, get the promotion, marry mary,…).
- …has big goals (free a kingdom, built a great carreer, have a great family,…).
- …knows self-efficacy.
- …knows how to reach the goals (if not now, start to look for possible ways).
- …starts doing.
- …is hopefully an agile hero and adapts (if the things don’t work out well ;))!
Watch out what stories you tell yourself. Watch out what stories others told you and which you absorbed and now tell yourself over and over. Go and pull yourself out of the swamp by your own hair like the real Baron Münchhausen.
How do you hold yourself clean of bad thoughts about the situation or yourself? Let the world know by a small comment!
Thanks for reading and sharing!